Wednesday, December 07, 2005

Friendship in Suffering

My "Tuesday Group" consists of about 6 other women, most of which are about my mother's age. I have been very contemplative about this group recently. I wonder why it works. These women don't understand exactly what I've been going through in the last year and a half, but they understand. They don't know what it feels like to be a liver transplant patient, but they know what it feels like. My life hasn't gotten much easier since we've been meeting every Tuesday for the last few months, but it has gotten more bearable.

We each have very, very dark places in our lives, but, somehow, over the past few months, our darknesses have combined to become light to each other. The light would not exist on its own. It is only through the sharing of burdens and suffering that the darkness can become light. It fits perfectly with scripture because it makes no sense. "The weak will be strong. The poor will be rich. Those in darkness will have light."

Jana posted a quote on her blog that fits perfectly here. It is from C.S. Lewis in his book, The Four Loves, "Friendship is born in the moments of 'You, too! I thought I was the only one!'" (or something like that). All of us in this group have had at least one of those moments.

There aren't many other circumstances that would have brought the 7 or 8 of us together like this other than suffering. But we are sisters. We laugh and cry together. We rally around each other and do our best to lift each other up. It's a lot easier to walk down this path when you have others walking with you and cheering you on, even though you know that their life is no easier than yours.

But that is what it's all about, isn't it? Christianity, I mean. It's not about debates over instruments or praise teams. It is about realizing that sometimes life just sucks and we need other Christians in the fox hole with us. The fight is against the Enemy, not each other.

Sometimes I just need to be reminded of that.


At 2:01 PM, Blogger Sarah said...

I didn't realize it had been so long since I stopped in! But, PREACH IT, AMANDA!! I have a group of friends that is the most hilarious, eclectic mix of preacher's wives, elder's wives, working, not working, raised in the church and not, children of all ages group of women.

We became buddies over coffee, but we have come to be sisters through sufferings. I absolutely believe that is what Christianity is all about. Not only immediate adoption as God's child, but into His family. What a precious place to be!

At 8:06 PM, Blogger Andrea said...

What a wonderful thing, Amanda. Thank you for sharing.

At 11:24 AM, Blogger Matt said...

Hang on tightly to a group like that. It may be what Christianity is all about, but those opportunities are often few and far between. I am glad you have such a support system; it's really hard to make it without one.


At 6:09 PM, Blogger Jana said...

You are so blessed to be a part of that group, Amanda. And they are BLESSED to have YOU!!!

At 11:12 AM, Anonymous Anonymous said...

I am so thankful you have that group, Amanda. I imagine you can greatly bless each others' lives. Please pray that Anonymous (God knows the name) will find someone to share joys and sufferings. It can be very lonely, even in the middle of a Church body, if people are too busy to notice that someone is in need, especially when they cry out and ask for help.


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